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Eating Disorder Relapse Prevention

Recovery from an eating disorder is possible, but it is not necessarily easy - not for the individual or the family. Considering that recovery is the goal, parents can take steps to help prevent their child's relapse. The following are some strategies designed to help the recovering daughter of any age, as well as the rest of the family.

Eating Disorder Recovery

No one gets sick in a vacuum. Although it may be the daughter with the actual disorder, she is probably not the only family member who may need to make changes. Therefore, all family members need to be fully committed to working on the aspects of their lives that could benefit from careful attention and growth. For example, if a father has anger issues, he should be actively working on understanding and altering that behavior; if a mother has body-image issues or a tendency toward perfectionism, she needs to be addressing that in her own life. Doing so will be helpful to the patient's eating disorder recovery, and it will also demonstrate the family's commitment to the one in recovery. Parents should strongly consider participating in family or marital therapy to reinforce their commitment to their daughter's recovery, to obtain objective feedback about her behaviors, and to grow in their relationship with their daughter.

Eating Disorder Recovery Expectations

It is important for a family to know what recovery looks like. It is usually a difficult and painful process on many levels. The family should not expect it to be a smooth road, but a road with periods of struggle interspersed by periods of smooth progress. The amount of struggle will depend on each individual person's situation.

Separate The Eating Disorder

Your child may have an illness, but she is not a problem that needs to be fixed. It is important for parents and siblings to separate the two, just as any parent would do if a child had a disease such as cancer. She is your daughter, and will remain your daughter long after the disorder has become part of her past.

Eating Disorder Relapse vs. Mistake

Full recovery takes time. During this time, slips may occur. This is not the end of the world and does not mean your daughter has to go back to square one and start the recovery process all over. It means she made a mistake - that's all. This can easily occur several times during recovery; only if eating-disorder behaviors become the norm day after day does it indicate she is probably headed for a relapse. Of course, it is wise to stay in communication with the patient's treatment team, so that they can professionally assess her risk of possible relapse.

Talk To One Another

Communication, involving the entire family, is key to recovery. This means talking. Far too often, families fall into unhealthy methods of communicating, be it body language, facial expressions, off-hand or negative remarks, or silence. What's more, families develop unhealthy strategies for coping with painful emotions such as shame or guilt. Instead of relying on alcohol or endless hours of television to dull the mind, everyone needs to start using their voice to communicate thoughts and feelings to one another. Positive communication through conversation cannot be stressed enough in any home, no less in a home where recovery is a goal.

Practice Effective Listening

It has been said that in conversations with their children, parents should listen 90% of the time. Listen to how she speaks about her own world and how she fits into that world. Don't go simply on how things look because appearance is deceiving. Ask questions ... then listen to the response, the words that are used, and her tone of voice. Stories that start with "when I was your age ..." should be shared sparingly. Participating in family therapy can teach what it means to listen well.

Emotional Honesty

Set a tone in your home of emotional honesty, telling the truth in love. Validate your own feelings and emotions. If something hurts your feelings, admit it. Through honesty, openness, and vulnerability, you set the stage for others in the home to act similarly. Remember, speak to one another in love. Attending family counseling sessions can teach the whole family how to communicate safely in this open emotional manner.

Work On Trust

Parents should not try to be in charge of the daughter's recovery process by being too controlling or setting down scores of rules. This is an issue of trust. Give her enough freedom to not only affect change, but regain parental trust. A power struggle in the home will likely push her back to the eating disorder, instead of away from it.

Don't Contain

Trying to contain the eating disorder within the family system is a mistake, meaning you must have an outpatient treatment team and support from friends and other family members. Do not keep the eating disorder a secret. This indicates to your daughter that it is something to be ashamed of, which it is not. Secrecy is contrary to recovery.

Make Certain Adjustments

Remove mirrors, especially full-length, from the daughter's bedroom. She should not have a computer in her room, but certainly can use one in a more common space. You do not want her to go to eating-disorder websites, of which there are many. Consider eliminating scales in the home. These changes need not necessarily be permanent; they need to be in effect only as long as it takes for the daughter to be secure in recovery.

Decrease Compliments

Praise and compliments are wonderful aspects of human interaction, as long as they are concerned with intangible qualities and character traits. Stay away from compliments that are appearance or performance-based. Focus on the beauty of her heart, not your perception of the beauty of her face or body.

Preventing An Eating Disorder Relapse

We have treated eating disorders for more than 25 years. We know recovery from an eating disorder is absolutely possible. It's happening every day at Remuda Ranch at The Meadows. Based on feedback from patients, families and professionals, the vast majority of our patients remain committed to a life of health, balance and purpose.

For additional information about the treatment of eating disorders, please call to speak to an Intake Coordinator at 866-390-5100 or complete the form below and we will contact you with the information you need.

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